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Angie
means my Lovely Star—Dzikrina Angie Pitaloka; while Mia is the nickname
of Mia Thermopolis, the narrator of teen-lit novel entitled Princess
Diaries written by Meg Cabot.
I bought the first serial of Princess
Diaries in 2003, four years ago, when Angie was twelve years ago. In
the first book, Mia was fourteen years old. As far as I remember
Princess Diaries is the first teen-lit novel Angie read. At first, she
complained why I bought here such a book, “Mia is fourteen while I am
only twelve,” she said.
“Well honey, only two years difference,
that’s not a big deal of course. I do hope you can get a good lesson
from this novel.” I reasoned four years ago.
And my guess was right:
Angie loved it. And sometimes she even was so absorbed that she saw
herself as a “princess to be”. LOL. I assume she mixed it with
Cinderella story (with its Cinderella complex!!!) (Un)luckily, in the
first serial, Meg Cabot didn’t illustrate Mia as a feminist, only her
mother: as a feminist who often did weird things with her weird
feminist friends. It was similar to Angie and me: Angie didn’t know
much about feminism, and perhaps she also saw me as weirdo: a feminist
who was much different from her friends’ mothers, or our female
neighbors who seemed to enjoy being full housewives. Unfortunately, in
the first series of Princess Diaries, the relationship between Mia and
her mother was not as open as my relationship with Angie since Mia
seemed not to like her mother’s “weird” things many feminists
(probably) do: such as not marrying Mia’s father, although she already
got a baby from the man: Mia. One thing I remember (though I don’t
remember in which serial Cabot wrote about it): when Mia’s mother
offered her to talk about sexuality openly by coming to Mia’s room and
encouraging her to talk about it heart to heart: instead of having a
lively and comfortable talk with her feminist mother, Mia rejected it,
saying to herself: “Sex? Oh no, my mom must be insane thinking that I
am already interested in sex.” Well, I don’t remember how old Mia was
when Cabot narrated that part. (FYI, I have the complete serials of
Princess Diaries, only Angie doesn’t collect them in one bookshelf.
Perhaps some books are borrowed by her friends. 
Realizing that as
a teenager, Angie is still undergoing unstable mental progress, frankly
speaking I often feel worried that Angie will blatantly follow her
“role models” in some teen-lit novels she reads, including Princess
Diaries. (The era when I bought her some religious collection short
stories has been over! It is because in those stories the narration is
clearly only between black and white, good and bad, no character is in
grey area. In the reality, life is not just black and white like that,
oftentimes we are surrounded by “grey things”, moreover I raise Angie
as a secular, which in my opinion is often related to grey area.)
Mostly after reading some teen-lit novels or watching movies/soap
operas on television about teenagers, I wait for Angie to ask me about
what she has read/watched, and discuss it together. She seldom does
that, though.
In the last serial of Princess Diaries (the title is
“Princess in the Brink” if I am not mistaken), Mia was narrated to be
thinking of doing lovemaking for the first time with Michael. I
assumed, no matter what, Cabot wouldn’t let it happen. (Honestly, as a
feminist living in Indonesia, an area called “the Eastern” part of the
globe, thinking of Angie will do it before getting married—moreover in
a very young age, just like Mia who was still sixteen years old, the
same age as Angie at the moment—really scared me, although I DO REALIZE
that doing sex is everybody’s right.)
I must admit that there was a
relief feeling in me when coming to the part that Mia didn’t do that
with Michael. (silly of me! LOL.) Surprisingly, Cabot then wrote the
“intimate scene” between Mia and her mother, because Mia needed to
confide in someone, and she chose her mother as the first person to
release her disappointment knowing that in fact Michael was no longer
virgin. 
After reading that, I noticed that recently, Angie loved
to be intimate with me on the bed before both of us fell asleep: one
thing she used to love doing as a kid, but she seldom did that after
she reached teenage.
Two nights ago, while lying on the bed in the
dark, Angie was very close to me, kissing my right ears, and whispered,
“You smell nice Mama. Will I still smell good like you after I become a
mother?” LOL.
As what always happens to anybody else, kids will
always be kid, won’t they? Anyway, I still love when Angie does things
like what she used to do to me when she was a small kid. A mother
will always be a mother? LOL. LOL.
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