Archive for October, 2006

Oct 18 2006

Swikee

Published by afemaleguest under Food and Drink

Sudah pernahkah kamu makan makanan satu ini "swikee"?

Aku belum pernah. Ada beberapa alasan mengapa aku belum pernah makan swikee. Pertama, dan yang terutama orang tuaku–especially my mom–tidak pernah memasukkan menu swikee ini ke dalam menu makan sehari-hari. Mereka juga tidak pernah mengajak anak-anaknya untuk makan di restoran yang menyediakan menu ini. Kalau pun ada, mereka tidak pernah memilih swikee ketika kita makan di restoran. FYI, orang tuaku bukan tipe orang yang suka eating out. That’s why as far as I remember, sangat jarang dulu orang tuaku mengajak anak-anaknya makan di restoran.

Kedua, berhubung tidak pernah mengenal swikee dalam menu sehari-hari, tentu saja aku tidak pernah berkeinginan untuk mencobanya. (Ato, apakah seharusnya aku justru merasa penasaran ya mengapa aku tidak pernah menemui menu ini di meja makan rumah? But the fact is: aku tidak pernah penasaran.)

Ketiga, di benakku katak alias kodok merupakan binatang yang menjijikkan. Mungkin karena warnanya yang hijau tua, hidup dalam lingkungan yang bagiku menjijikkan pula. LOL. Aku bayangkan setelah matang, kodok yang berubah nama menjadi swikee ini pun tetap berwarna hijau tua. LOL. Tambah lagi kodok selalu mengangkang sehingga menimbulkan efek porno bagiku. LOL. Sehingga mungkin di bawah alam sadarku mempengaruhiku untuk tidak makan segala sesuatu yang porno. LOL.

Keempat, aku termasuk tipe orang yang tidak suka mencoba makanan baru. Mungkin aku akan lebih memilih kelaparan daripada harus memakan suatu makanan yang asing di lidahku.

Namun ternyata Abangku suka banget dengan swikee, apalagi dia tinggal di tempat yang sangat sulit bagi dia untuk memperoleh swikee, sehingga baginya makan swikee adalah satu anugrah yang patut dihargai. LOL. Dan dia heran mengapa seumur hidupku ini aku belum pernah sekali pun mencicipi makanan yang baginya sangat lezat ini. LOL. Dia memintaku untuk mencoba mencicipi swikee. But, as usual, aku tipe orang yang "get command from no one". Sehingga dia tidak berhasil memprovokasiku untuk mencoba mencicipinya dari tempat tinggalnya yang ribuan mil jauhnya dari Semarang. LOL. Walhasil … "makan swikee alias kodok ngangkang" ini pun menjadi salah satu hal yang akan kita lakukan berdua jikalau kita diberi kesempatan Tuhan untuk bertemu in person, di antara hal-hal lain lagi yang pengen kita lakukan bersama :) such as bernyanyi karaoke beberapa lagu Ebiet G. Ade dan John Denver, berenang bersama untuk mencari tahu siapa di antara kita berdua yang bisa mengapung lebih lama. LOL. (Clue: I can swim for two hours without taking a break, he gets bored before swimming for an hour. It means: I will be the winner. LOL.)

Can’t wait, Bang. :)

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Oct 17 2006

Today

Published by afemaleguest under daily

I am at my workplace right now, with four students are around me. They haven’t seen me for ages, they said. LOL. Hahaha …

One of them–Merlin said, "Ma’am, you are really a supporter of feminism ideologi, aren’t you? So, will you support polyandry?"

I responded, "Yeah … why not? If men can have more than one wife, why women cannot have more than one husband?" LOL.

This conversation reminded me of one experience I had with Angie. We went to restaurant "Ayam Bakar Wong Solo", coz suddenly I felt so restless without any clear reason. If I were "healthily okay" LOL, I wouldn’t go to that restaurant coz it means that I gave income to the owner that I really disliked for his polygamy campaign. (Oh well, I sometimes cannot control my psychological problem. :-D)

When choosing what drink to have, I spotted "Juice polygamy" UGHH!!!! I felt like I wanted to run away from the restaurant right away. LOL. But I didnt think it was polite to cancel our meal there. (So, what do you interpret from "juice polygamy" What is the recipe??

After finishing our meal, I paid to the cashier. On the table I spotted a tabloid entitled POLIGAMI, with one big headline, "Tunjukkan bahwa anda adalah laki-laki ulung dengan memiliki istri lebih dari satu." HUEEEKKKKK!!!!!

I instantly ran away from that place. I said to Angie, "We will not go back to this place, although the food is delicious." LOL.

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Oct 17 2006

Ethnicity, religiosity, …

Published by afemaleguest under Current Affairs

I have been bothered with these two things–ethnicity and religiosity–recently due to an "accident" I had to undergo. I am somewhat bored to try writing about these, actually, since I suppose I have written some articles on these in my blogs.
Some days ago I got a reply from a good friend of mine that is still trying to know internet in order that she is not labeled as "internet illiterate"; her reply commented on my email to her about these two things; and for your information, her reply shocked me a bit. Instead of feeling attentive to my problem, she even justified what my superior has done to me–discrimination based on ethnicity and religiosity. "Those people have been discriminated during their whole life. And in some extent, that’s the way they try to survive among their own "community". Do you agree if I say that it is the same as TAKING REVENGE? And taking revenge will never ever overcome problems. It will even create more grudge, annoyance, and sort of things. Consequently, it will create a social disease that is like a cycle, that will never stop.
When will the life really bring peace to everybody?
Should I say that one natural law is that discrimination–be it due to ethnicity, and religiosity, or in any other form such as gender–will always exist? Is it natural law that people will always have grudge to other people? Is it natural law that people love fighting, trying to conquer others to show their superiority?
SIGH …
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Oct 14 2006

NORTH COUNTRY

Published by afemaleguest under Film

NORTH COUNTRY is a movie based on a true story. The movie is starred by Charlize Theron—cast as Josey Aimes—and Frances McDormand—cast as Glory, Josey’s friend.

The movie illustrates the sexual harassment done to women miners working for Pearson Taconite and Steel, Inc. And it reminds me of my own post here some days ago about a male friend of mine working for a mining company located in

North Sulawesi

; he complained when one day a female miner was hired and she was under his supervision. The complaint was that he didn’t have a heart to give her work to explore an area that he considered difficult for a woman.

A bit different from that experience of my friend, NORTH COUNTRY focuses more on the sexual harassment experienced by women working in the mining company. (It made me wonder, though, whether in the mining company where my friend works male employees also do sexual harassment to women? L)

There are two main things that attracted my attention when watching this movie: the struggle of Josey Aimes to get justice for women miners, and her personal life as a single mother who tried hard to make her two children happy.

The movie stated that a mining company started to hire women in 1975 in

North Minnesota

. However, in 1989, the comparison between male and female working in there still showed a big gap: 30:1. As in many other countries in the world, American people classify jobs into men’s jobs and women’s jobs. And working in a mining company is classified into men’s job. When someone—a man or a woman—has a job that is traditionally held by the opposite sex, he or she will get a big protest from society.

Josey Aimes didn’t get permission from her father to work for Pearson Taconite and Steel, Inc. where her father also worked.

Apparently, her father—Hank Aimes–didn’t like it coz he considered the job as men’s job. The bad relationship between the father and the daughter made it worse. My interpretations for these are

Ø       The father—as a man—felt threatened to lose his job if women started to do this job traditionally held by men. When more and more women are hired to work in a mining company, men will feel threatened that it will be more difficult for them to get a job coz they get more competitors. As the main breadwinner—in a patriarchal society men always want to show their superiority to women by being the solely breadwinner in a family—men feel that their superiority is at stake.

Ø       The father that felt ashamed coz Josey got pregnant when she was still in high school—without telling who the man was—felt more ashamed coz his daughter decided to do a job traditionally held by men. He had to face society that would accuse him failing to raise a daughter. He wanted to bury Josey’s bad past experience by seeing her as a “good” woman, by being a good wife (unfortunately Josey’s husband often beat her cruelly so that she left him) or by having a “woman’s job”. Society in

Minnesota

was illustrated as old-fashioned in 1989, such as accusing Josey as a bad woman coz she got pregnant outside the wedlock in a relatively young age, and when she left her husband although she did that due to his cruel treatment.

I really appreciate Josey’s guts to quit from her job—although she needed much money to raise her two children—coz of the sexual harassment she continuously got from her male workmates after she found out that the boss of the company didn’t help her overcome the problem. She reported the company to the court although (at the beginning) none of her workmates supported her coz they were worried to lose their job that meant they would lose their income. The result of the case in the court was very relieving coz Josey won it after Glory and some other female workmates eventually supported her. This winning was very good coz then the mining companies made strong regulation on sexual harassment.

Another thing that impressed me from this movie is Josey’s responsibility to raise her first son although she got pregnant due to a rape done by her high school teacher. She toughly hid this secret although she was accused as having sex with many partners so that she didn’t know which of them was the father of her son. (She even didn’t tell the truth to her parents about it.) It made me wonder if Josey got this idea from Scarlet Letter, a novel written by Nathaniel Hawthorne, where Hester Prynne hid her lover’s name coz he was an outstanding priest: Josey had to keep her high school teacher’s good name?

Every time Josey looked at Sammy—her first son—she would always remember that miserable experience—to be raped by her high school teacher. But still, she kept the pregnancy until her baby was born. She kept loving Sammy although he showed hostility toward her coz he believed what society said that his mother is a bitch.

If only Josey had told her parents since the very beginning why she got pregnant when she was still in high school, she would have had a better relationship with her father, I am wondering. She would have had a lighter burden.

If only Josey had told Sammy since the very beginning that she kept her pregnancy coz she loved her baby, she wouldn’t have undergone the hostility shown by her son.

Anyway, the movie had a happy ending. It reminded me of one lecturer when I was still in college. He said that American movies tend to have a happy ending instead of unhappy ending coz people need to be entertained. :-D

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Oct 10 2006

Some comments …

Published by afemaleguest under Weblogs

Here are some comments I got from my blog at http://afemaleguest.blog.co.uk on my post "Religious = good?" Just wanna share with you, my blog readers here, to widen our horizon, that differences are beautiful, that viewing things from different perspective will always enrich our insight.

You can view all those comments here http://afemaleguest.blog.co.uk/2006/10/09/religous_good~1201616

Here is from Phillip, one great blog friend of mine at blog.co.uk

I think all groups, including secular ones use this superiority as a bonding devize, religion is another form of ‘glue’ that reinforces this sense of belonging. Its time we grew out of this nonsense and recognised that this is one Earth and we are one species on it. We are all in it together and need to work together to solve the problems we are facing.

Here is another comment

Phil said in one comment on my blog that religion is different from spirituality. I have bit similar opinion. Spirituality in every religious thought is liberating force for individual, but religion mostly do the opposite.

Here is another longer comment.

So many good points from all in this topic.

To return to the question.

No. Religion per say does not make you a better person, if compassion be the measure of moral amelioration.

When I became a Christian in my teens, it changed nothing about my life, except brought me intellectual and existential conflict, which compromised my decision-making.

I have profound opposition to Tony Blair’s expansion of state funded faith schools. This is a green light to sectarianism.

I went to both Catholic and Non-Denominational schools, so I know what I am talking about. It wasnt just the isolation from other non-Catholics that was harmful to social development, but the gender segregation. Girls and Boys schooled separately.

I would say that religion usually acts as an impediment to goodness and peace. It creates tribalism, elitism, and a suspicion of strangers. And in my view teaches a fictional narrative of existence and anthropology… Adam and Eve… 7 days… God stoped the earth for Joshua… Jonah and the Whale… On the back of these fables, we have theodicy and morality. Or in my view lies and cruelty.

I am wondering when those spiritual snobs start to let their mind open and accept beautiful differences between religiosity and secularism.
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Oct 08 2006

Women Employee

Published by afemaleguest under Gender

Some days ago I
read in a national newspaper about police women who cannot reach a high
position in their job only because they were born as female. Their female
bodies are considered as the main weakness for them to do any assignment as
police women. Many policemen don’t like to get policewomen as their partners to
do one duty, let’s say, coz they say that their burden even will be doubled coz
they don’t only think about their own safety, they have to protect their female
partner as well. Some of them also complain that sometimes they will have to
face the policewomen’s husbands’ jelousy when they have to do a task
together. Policewomen, then, will only
get desk jobs that often will make their career stop.

According to
the article in that newspaper, more than 50% policewomen complain about that.
They are in fact ready to do any assignment given to them—not only desk jobs.
As policewomen, they used to get training some martial arts too to protect
themselves so why their male partners complain about having to protect them?

It reminded me
of a male friend of mine who works for a mining company in North Sulawesi, one
big island in Indonesia. Some months ago he told me about a new female employee
as his subworker. He complained coz he couldn’t give her any job coz she was a
female. “I don’t have a heart to send her to a mining site in a forest, let’s
say, coz it is a hard job for a woman. It is not an easy area to explore. I
don’t have a heart either to send her to a mining site in another site where
the weather is hot coz it will ruin her complexion. She will become dark due to
that.”

Simply I
responded, “Do you think she doesn’t know her risk to choose that kind of job?
She must be ready to face any risk she gets in her job coz it is her own
choice. Why don’t you just stop bothering yourself and just give her any duty
she has to do; any duty you would give to a male subworker? Treat them equal.”

“It is easy for
you to say that coz you are a feminist. You always want to be treated equally.
I am not sure with her though,” he still complained.

“If she
refuses, send her home. She is not ready to work for a mining company then.
Tell her that she has made a wrong choice.”

Oh well, I
forget to ask him whether my friend eventually gives the new female employee
any duty, and whether she still goes on working there.

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Oct 08 2006

Religious = good?

Published by afemaleguest under Religion

This is the
story of a friend of mine with her student that has Arabian blood in his body.

The student has
two siblings. Her parents sent all the three children to Islamic schools with
the reason that they will get good teachings about religion that will make them
become good people (religious people = good people
=> the parents’ opinion). Besides they will
also in a good community; they will only get along with good people coz the
schools—elementary school, junior high school, and senior high school—are full
of “only” religious people. (Again: religious people = good people according to
the parents.)

The students
who still goes to junior high school doesn’t criticize the way the parents
think coz he completely agree with them.

However, then,
my friend—the class teacher of that particular student—encouraged him to
continue his study to a state senior high school. (FYI, in my hometown, no
Islamic senior high school has a good reputation as a favorite school yet so
far. There are some Catholic senior high schools are considered to have good
reputation though.) There are two main reasons why my friend encouraged her
student to continue the study to a state senior high school. First, prestige.
If this quite smart student is accepted at one favorite state senior high
school, he will be proud of himself. Second, to broaden his horizon. Outside
his family and his community in Islamic junior high school, he will find many
other people with different religions who are good people too. Differences are
beautiful.

I remember my
own indoctrination I got when I was a little—especially when I was in
elementary school. Only Muslim people are the chosen ones so that they all will
go to heaven no matter what they do in this world coz they already have the key
to open the heaven’s door: being a Muslim. Other people with different
religions are not lucky coz no matter how good they are in this world they will
go to hell later coz they don’t have they key to go to heaven; coz they are not
Muslim.

The conviction
to be the chosen people makes Muslim people—especially the ones who got the
indoctrination just like me and also that particular student of my friend—will
apparently make them religious snobs.

When taking my
master’s degree at American Studies, I learned about the American who felt as
the chosen people so that they believed that they were created in this world to
conquer the world. It made me surprised: how could those American
people—especially when I read the writings by the early American writers such
as John Smith—feel as the chosen people? Besides I also found out that many
other ethnic groups also felt as the chosen people. When I laughed at those
people who felt as the chosen, consequently those people also could laugh at
Muslim who felt the same thing.

Isn’t it more
beautiful if no one feels as the chosen so that no one needs to be religious
snobs? Isn’t this world more peaceful when no ethnic group feels better than
the rest? Isn’t this world better when people think of how to do good to
others, without having any idea to harm other people, away of being a certain
ethnic group, or adhering a certain religion?

Going to some
religion schools—Islamic or Catholic or Christian schools or any other
religions. I remember another friend of mine who got offer to send her daughter
to a Christian kindergarten to make her as a “good Christian”. My friend wisely
said, “I don’t want my daughter to be a good Christian if that means she will
be mean to people from other religions. I don’t want her to be a religious
snob. I am of opinion that such schools even create gap among people with
different religions. I want my daughter to go to a state school where she will
get along with people from various religions so that she will learn to
appreciate different religions since she is very young.”

Very wise and
contemplative, isn’t it?

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Oct 05 2006

Religion

Published by afemaleguest under Religion

I am wondering if those founders of many kinds religions in this world have ever thought that what they meant to create a better world would even become the cause of violence …
Many people kill each other only coz of different religions.

Many people have lost their jobs only coz they adhere different religion from the employers.
Many people easily suspect other people adhering different religion from them as bad people only coz "He/she has a different religion from me, so he/she must be a bad person."

Many people avoid getting in touch with people having different religion from them only coz they are worried to be put into hell–one thing that is probably only a myth–since their religious teachers indoctrinate them that people having different religions are the same as devils.
Many people close their eyes about the quality of other people adhering different religions.
Why must there be many religious snobs around me? Muslims … and Christians especially … people with whom I get in touch with.

It makes me sick. :-((

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Oct 03 2006

Tatkala Malam Tiba

Published by afemaleguest under poems

di setiap malam
di balik jendela
kutatap langit yang kelam
menunggu bisikan desau angin
telahkah kau sebut namaku
dengan segenap hati dan sepenuh cintamu
sebagai pengantar tidurku
yang kan menghiasi mimpi indahku

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Setelah angin malam membelai pipiku dengan mesra
dan bisikan lembutmu terdengar di telinga
aku pun beranjak dari jendela
menuju peraduan
senyum manismu selalu terbayang di pelupuk mata
walau engkau jauh di sana
dan sebelum kupejamkan mata
aku berbisik,
"Terima kasih telah menyebut namaku sepenuh jiwa
terima kasih telah mencintaiku dengan indah…
terima kasih telah membuat hidupku seceria bianglala…
Terima kasih, Cinta…"

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Oct 02 2006

Hidup IV

Published by afemaleguest under Song

Oh … rentangkan tangan-Mu,

bersama datang malam

agar dapat kurebahkan kepala

pada bulan di lengan-Mu

Oh … hembuskanlah

nafas iman ke dalam sukma

agar dapat kuyakini

hidup dan kehidupan ini

      di gunung kucari Kamu

      di sini pun kucari Kamu

      di manakah kutemui Kamu

      untuk luluh dalam genggaman-Mu

Oh … bisikkanlah

kemanakah langkah mesti kubawa

agar pasti akan bertemu

untuk kutumpahkan ridu

      di lengan-Mu, kutemukan cinta

      di mata-Mu memancar makna

      rindu ini tak tertahan lagi

      untuk menangis di pangkuan-Mu

P.S.: Another lyric of Ebiet’s song from album ‘Camellia IV’, quite soothing to listen to in this hot day during Ramadhan month in Semarang :-)

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