Archive for August, 2006

Aug 31 2006

Jumat 1 September 2006

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Masih di kantor yang sama. LOL. It means how long I have been sitting on the same chair in front of this computer? LOL. Frankly speaking, ternyata aku capek juga, tubuhku, dan juga mataku. Capek pake kacamata, but if I don’t wear my glasses, gak mantap aja rasanya kalo lagi kerja pake komputer begini.

Bentar lagi aku bakal cabut ke kantorku yang satunya where I work as a part-time.

Beberapa jam yang lalu, a male student nongol, menatapku, kemudian dengan pedenya bertanya, "Have you read my skripsi Ma’am?"

I asked him back, "Which one?" FYI, he never came to me yet to tell me officially that I was the second advisor of his skripsi.

He replied, "I put it on your desk Ma’am last wednesday coz you didn’t show up here."

Dengan pede dan cuek, LOL, aku jawab, "Oh well, you never came to me yet to tell me that I was the advisor of your skripsi. And your putting your skripsi on my desk didn’t tell me anything but a student misput his skripsi. You didn’t contact me to tell me what you meant with that. You didn’t write any note either on your skripsi what you were going to inform me." NAH LO. LOL.

Well, itu hanyalah shock therapy untuk mahasiswa tersebut. LOL.

I did exactly the same thing to another student yesterday. LOL.

I’ve got to rush to another workplace of mine now.

(Huh, sebel, ga bisa buka blogger.com juga hari ini. Sudah berapa hari ini I have written my daily activities in this friendster blog, padahal pengennya ga begitu, meskipun yah … siapa juga complain? LOL. I am free to post anything in my own blog. LOL.)

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Aug 31 2006

Morning rituals

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My morning rituals, terutama setelah Angie menyandang sebagai siswa SMA N 3 Semarang. Ada beberapa tipe, LOL.

Pertama.

  1. Bangun jam 5,
  2. shalat Subuh,
  3. nyuci (terutama seragam sekolah Angie karena dia maunya ganti seragam tiap hari–dibandingin jaman aku waktu di bangku sekolah dulu, seragam dipakai dua hari, baru dicuci. Angie hanya memiliki dua stel seragam putih abu-abu, so aku harus mencuci tiap hari agar keesokan hari Angie berangkat sekolah mengenakan seragam yang licin disterika dan wangi. LOL. Well, Angie memang sudah cukup besar untuk mencuci seragam sekolahnya sendiri. But, I love to do that for my only lovely star.
  4. nyapu, well, rumah bundaku yang cukup luas itu dibagi 3 wilayah kerja, LOL. bagian halaman rumah depan adikku, dalam rumah bagian depan, adikku yang satunya, dan aku kebagian nyapu bagian belakang rumah, meliputi tiga kamar tidur, lorong, dan ruang makan.
  5. mandi,
  6. sarapan bareng Angie,
  7. siap-siap berangkat,
  8. ngantar Angie ke sekolah,
  9. berangkat ke kantor yang tak jauh dari SMA N 3 Semarang,
  10. sesampai di kantorku yang terletak di lantai 10, meletakkan tas di atas meja, menyalakan komputer, menyalakan switch dispenser air, melepaskan my high-heeled shoes, LOL, dan mulai menikmati akses internet untuk ngecek email, blogs, bla bla bla, sembari menunggu mahasiswa yang butuh konsultasi ini itu (maklum sedang semester break nih)

Kedua,

Point 1 sampai 8 di atas sama, minus point 3. Setelah mengantar Angie ke sekolah, aku mampir ke kantor sebentar, ngecek email dan blog selama kurang lebih 30 menit, kemudian kabur ke Paradise Club, fitness center, untuk aerobik dan fitness kadang-kadang.

Pulang sekitar jam 9-9.30, tergantung mood-ku, (dasar moody!!! LOL) pengen fitness agak lama atau hanya sebentar. Sesampai rumah, baru nyuci, sekaligus mandi. Kalo ada appointment dengan mahasiswa siang hari, aku buru-buru ke kantor. Kalo tidak ada, aku bakalan agak santai di rumah, menyalakan komputer, ngetik sesuatu, misalnya artikel buat blog, atau email, atau hanya mengetik di diary. (I really need to express myself!!!)

Setelah itu baru ke kantor.

Khusus hari Minggu. Bangun pagi jam 5, shalat Subuh, nyapu, langsung kabur ke kolam renang. Berenang sekitar jam 06.15-07.30. Setelah mandi, duduk di salah satu bangku di sekitar kolam renang, sembari menikmati semilir angin di pagi hari, aku menulis di buku harian portable-ku, LOL, (nulis diary melulu sih Na? LOL.) dan membaca buku. Sekitar jam 9 pulang.

Setelah itu, nongkrong di rumah melulu, baca buku, ato biasalah, ngetik di komputer, email, artikel, ato sekedar di diary. Kadang, molor … LOL. Akhir-akhir ini aku jarang sightseeing dengan Angie, semenjak dia mulai masuk sekolah. Belajar melulu mentang-mentang bersekolah di SNBI (Sekolah Nasional Berstandar Internasional)? Ah, nggak juga kok. LOL.

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Aug 31 2006

Getting Period 2

Published by afemaleguest under Gender

I got period for the first time at a relatively young age, 11 years old. I had heard about women getting menstruation from some subjects I got at school. (I went to Islamic elementary school, so I got some Islamic subjects, such as fiqh, tauhid, etc.) However, I didn’t know a lot about it, except that women are considered dirty when getting menstruation so that after the menstruation is over, they must take full shower to clean themselves, so that they become clean again and they are ready to do some Islamic teachings; such as praying five times a day, fasting, and reciting Alquran.

When the first time I got it, I got very shocked. One morning when I woke up, and prepared myself to pray Subuh (one pray done by Muslim in the early morning, before the sun rises), my mom came to me and prohibited me to do it. It made me very nervous and worried coz before that, my parents usually did on the way around, they would scold me if I didn’t pray. Why the hell on the way around then? Then my mom told me the reason. “You got what is called as menstruation. You are not supposed to pray.” Still, it didn’t really make me relieved.

Realizing blood suddenly came out of my private area absolutely made me very uncomfortable. Knowing that not many classmates of mine had experienced it (except some who were older than I was), made me more insecure. I was bloody embarrassed if my classmates knew about it. On the same day when I want back from school, the housemaid in my house said to me, “you must watch out now that you already get menstruation.” With a very serious facial expression. She really made me scared with that. Why do I have to watch out myself? What’s wrong with me with this so-called menstruation that made some blood coming out of my body while I didn’t feel anything wrong inside? Wearing sanitary napkin inside my panties of course made my movement uncomfortable.

Later on, I found out why that housemaid said such a thing to me. A girl who has got menstruation can get pregnant if she happens to get laid, and to get pregnant out of wedlock is something very embarrassing in

Indonesia

. And since that housemaid was not an educated person, she couldn’t explain it to me logically but scared me. And my mom didn’t know how worried and nervous I was at that time.

To avoid similar uncomfortable things happened to Angie, I talked a lot about this: menstruation is something that will always happen to women, it happens naturally, no need to be panicky, just accept it naturally too of course, coz there is nothing wrong actually, just monthly cycle inside women’s bodies.

My complaint is: when it is something natural, and there is oftentimes possibility for women to suffer from stomachache when they get menstruation, why many people make some unwise policy related to jobs especially where the policy just make women more marginalized?

e.g.: women are not supposed to be a leader coz they get period every month. The reason is: how if something very urgent happens and the leader needs to do something to handle it while at that time the female leader get stomachache due to menstruation.

Guys, we don’t choose to be born as creatures to get period and consequently we get stomachache sometimes. Why should you punish us with that so-called policy?

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Aug 31 2006

Getting Period 1

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Have you ever heard that when women want to take some days off from the workplace coz of getting period, women must show the ‘proof’?

One local newspaper stated that a factory in one district located in Indramayu, West Java Indonesia issued a regulation that to get some days off due to period, female workers must show the proof that they really get their monthly menstruation. It is all related to the effort to improve the productivity target. A female worker must meet the Personnel Manager and the Production Manager that both happen to be males, and one security guard that happens to be female. The female worker must enter one special room provided with some cotton to take the blood sample. Isn’t it insane? Women are not considered as human beings, they are just like things.

Unluckily, those female workers don’t have power to protest coz they are afraid to be laid off.

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Aug 30 2006

I Carry Your Heart

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I carry your heart with me(i carry it in my heart)

I am never without it

(anywhere I go you go, my dear;

and whatever is done by only me is your doing,my darling)
                               

    i fear no fate(for you are my fate, my sweet)

    i want no world (for beautiful you are my world,my true)
    and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
    and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

A poem by EE Cummings

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Aug 30 2006

Kamis 31 Agustus 2006

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Di kantor.

Aku sampai tadi sekitar jam 7 setelah ngantar Angie ke sekolahnya. I have some appointments with some students, later after 8am till around 12pm. Aku langsung ke kantor karena males balik ke rumah lagi karena letak sekolah Angie–SMAN 3 Semarang–dekat dengan kantorku, kurang lebih cuma 500 meter. Well, aku belum pernah ngitung tepatnya sih. LOL. Berhubung speedometer motorku mati, I cannot check it. Aku butuh meteran to do that. Hahaha …

Ada satu hal yang sangat kusukai tiba di kantor pagi-pagi gini. Kantor masih sepi, serasa personal office room dah kalo gitu. LOL. Aku bisa ngapa-ngapain aja, dari jingkrak-jingkrak dengerin musik dari radio, baca koran, mau bengong aja, jalan-jalan muterin kantorku yang berukuran kurang lebih 10×10 m untuk 7 orang dosen tetap, (kurang kerjaan banget sih Na, pake jalan-jalan muterin kantor? yah … sebagai ganti treadmill ato static cycling di fitness center gara-gara aku langsung ngantor) nulis diary, dan yang paling kugandrungi adalah ngecek email dan blog.

Abangku nyaranin aku akses internet aja di rumah. Aku bilang, "Aduh Bang, internet is soooo irresistibly charming to me! Ga bakal lah aku bisa cuma sejam dua jam ngenet, apalagi dengan hobby baru yang kutekuni beberapa bulan terakhir ini–blogging, wah … bisa 24 jam sehari aku nongkrongin internet di rumah kalo lagi libur."

Dia protes, "Be strict to yourself dong Na. Kira-kira udah berapa jam ngenet, trus disconnect."

Aku dengan keras kepalaku bilang, "TIDAK BISA!!!" hahaha … "The best way to control myself not to go online all the time is not to access internet at home."

Well … well … kita berdua sama-sama LEO, sama-sama keras kepala lah. Cuma bedanya, dia sudah lebih lama mengasah penggunaan rasio daripada emosi, ya dia lebih rasional sedang aku lebih sentimental. LOL. "Percaya deh Bang, orang hidup itu butuh nangis, untuk membasuh matanya agar tetap bersih." LOL. Btw, dia tetap tidak percaya kok dengan alasanku yang satu ini. LOL. Dan aku tetap ngeyel. LOL.

Jadi inget diskusi kita kemarin, tentang the survival of the fittest milik Herbert Spencer, yang survive lebih lama di dunia ini bukanlah yang paling kuat melainkan yang paling adaptable, bisa beradaptasi dimana pun dia berada. So, aku bilang ke dia, "Makanya Bang, jangan suka ngeyelan. Be easy going. Adapt yourself in all situations." Lah … padahal aku sama juga dengan dia, TUKANG NGEYEL!!! hahahaha … "Ngaca dong Na, ngaca!" hahaha …

Btw, semalam aku nonton "In Her Shoes", tentang friendship of two sisters, Rose and Maggie Feller. Well, memang kok ya dalam friendship, dalam cinta, quarrel happens now and again, but it doesn’t mean that the people involved hate each other so that their relationship is over. Setelah Maggia minggat ke Florida karena diusir Rose, ternyata mereka berdua tetap saling memikirkan dan merindukan. Dan seperti banyak film-film lain buatan American producers, the story ended happily.

Ada dua puisi yang dibaca oleh Maggie. Yang pertama tentang "losing someone we care much. Maggie membacanya untuk seorang laki-laki tua yang tinggal di panti jompo. Sayangnya aku ga tahu penulis puisi ini, bahkan judulnya pun aku tidak tahu. It means I cannot find it in internet–my best friend–in searching data. :) Puisi yang kedua, again read by Maggie on Rose’s wedding party, berjudul "I carry your heart with me" milik EE Cummings, one American poet in the Modern Period. Puisi yang bener-bener membuatku MELELEH, kalau hatiku ini terbuat dari salju dan kemudian matahari tiba-tiba bersinar.

Ah udah jam 8 lebih sekarang. Aku harus entry data nilai mahasiswa. Tapi sebelum itu, aku akan bikin secangkir cappuccino, dan posting puisi EE Cummings juga nanti di sini. (I am wondering if any reader of my blog will also be melting when reading this poem. Ato seperti yang kukatakan kepada Abangku, aku adalah seorang pecinta romantis dan sentimentil sehingga gampang meleleh … LOL.)

FBS UA 08.30

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Aug 30 2006

Tatkala dia pergi

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Poem1

dan tatkala dia pergi

sepi pun menyeruak ke dalam hati

membuncah ke segala sisi

     dan tak sepatah kata pun mampu terucap

     hanya ke arah dia menghilang aku menatap

     JDC 14.00 300806

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Aug 29 2006

Famous and Amusing Dating Quotes

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From a friend’s blog at http://detersdatingdiaires.blog.co.uk/

"I believe that sex is one of the most beautiful, natural, wholesome things that money can buy." * Tom Clancy

"There are a number of mechanical devices which increase sexual arousal, particularly in women. Chief among these is the Mercedes-Benz 500SL." * Lynn Lavner

"Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant." * George Burns

"Women might be able to fake orgasms. But men can fake whole relationships." * Sharon Stone

"My girlfriend always laughs during sex ~ no matter what she’s reading." * Steve Jobs (Founder, Apple Computers)

"Ah, yes, Divorce, from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man’s genitals through his wallet." * Robin Williams

"Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place." * Billy Crystal

"According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course, men are just grateful." * Robert De Niro

"There’s a new medical crisis. Doctors are reporting that many men are having allergic reactions to latex condoms. They say they cause severe swelling. So what’s the problem?" * Dustin Hoffman

"There’s very little advice in men’s magazines, because men think, ‘I know what I’m doing. Just show me somebody naked.’" * Jerry Seinfeld

"Instead of getting married again, I’m going to find a woman I don’t like and just give her a house." * Rod Stewart

"See, the problem is that God gives men a brain and a penis, and only enough blood to run one at a time." * Robin Williams

“A girl can wait for the right man to come along but in the meantime that still doesn’t mean she can’t have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones”. * cher

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Aug 29 2006

Love

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Poem_2when you feel his only existence
on your side
can fulfill the absence  of all people
in the whole world

is that love?

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Aug 28 2006

Drop the stupid act girls

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Pink
Drop the
stupid act girls

Naomi
Kazzi laments the proliferation of American pop culture raunch, infiltrating televisions and magazines all ove Australia.

 

We are currently living in a world where we
are trapped and suffocated by American pop culture. We live in a place where
Australians can easily recall the first American president but suddenly
experience a moment of amnesia when asked to name the first Australian Prime
Minister; it is a place where Coca Cola signs are permanently situated on our
city streets, where American franchises are so familiar we forget they¹re
foreign. Our television sets can¹t resist the American air and our movie
screens are absolutely obsessed

with Hollywood blockbusters. Our music charts
are no different; they too can only handle a limited quantity of Australian
songs at any one time. So it is no surprise that American musical phenomenon
Pink¹s latest hit song titled Stupid Girls is just as relevant to Australia¹s
young female generation as it is to the same American demographic.

 

Released internationally in March, Stupid
Girls is the first track from Pink¹s new Album, I’m Not Dead. The song
describes a new wave of young shallow female celebrities who have a strong
constant presence in the media and an enormous fellowship of highly
mpressionable ¹tweenage¹ girls.

 

But Stupid Girls itself is nowhere near as
controversial as its video clip. Directed by Dave Meyers, it comments on the
ridiculous antics of Œartists¹ such as Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, Jessica
Simpson, the Olsen Twins and Britney Spears. Although their names are never
mentioned in the lyrics, Pink aims to satirise the image of these celebrities
by dressing like them and re-enacting real events in their lives. The
re-enactments include

Lindsay Lohan¹s infamous car accidents, Paris
Hiltons¹ sex tapes, Jessica Simpsons¹raunchy music video and the Olsen twin¹s
obsessive shopping sprees. The song¹s message doesn¹t end there, Pink also
questions the suitability of these role models for today¹s youth, as she asks
:²Where have all the smart people gone?Š What happened to the idea of a girl
president, instead she¹s dancing in a video next to 50 cent².

 

The questions regarding female
representations in the media are not exclusive to Pink. For years many social
commentators have asked similar questions about the media and Hollywood¹s
portrayal of the Œideal¹ female who is an object of sexual desire, attractive
and extremely thin. Many researchers have also focused on the effects of this
on younger

Generations of females.

 

The ŒStupid Girl¹ era is currently at its
peak. With mainstream role models such as Jessica Simpson, who can¹t tell the
difference between fish and chicken and Paris Hilton, who is famous for being
famous, it¹s no surprise that a recent British survey of 15 to 19 year old
females published in The Sunday Times, revealed that 63% would rather be a
topless model than a doctor or a nurse. A quarter thought lap dancing was a
good profession, but only 3% aspired to be teachers.

 

High rating television shows such as The OC
also attribute to instilling messages on the subject of females being slim,
gorgeous, wearing the latest designer fashion and acting really stupid because
it¹s viewed as Œcute¹.This message has been heard by enough Australian¹s that
Supre fashion stores nation-wide have succeeded in selling a clothes line based
on the popular American series.

 

Today¹s younger generation of females seems
to believe that intelligence is Œuncool¹, while stupid is Œsexy¹. The primary
misconception appears to be that self-worth and acceptance can be achieved
through owning material possessions and succumbing to the media¹s image of what
is said to be a Œbeautiful¹ or Œhot¹ female. This is both unhealthy and
unrealistic, and the ramifications of following this ŒStupid Girl¹ movement can
only lead to further confusion about identity.

 

This recent crisis has been explored by a
research paper published in an issue of the Australasian Marketing Journal, the
paper found that Australian magazines targeted at young females, such as Dolly,
Girlfriend and Barbie Magazine all reinforce prevailing stereotypes of females
and support unrealistic body types. It was also noted that advertisers still
have some way to go in terms of deconstructing stereotypes of women. One of the
main questions this study raises is how consistent use of these stereotypes

Will affect the self-esteem, confidence, body
image and self-identity of young females in the future.

 

Social commentators, researchers, academics
and even concerned parents have warned about the severity of the implications
of this current Œstupid Girl¹epidemic, all their precautions have been ignored
especially by those who should listen: young females. Perhaps this battle can
only be fought in the realm of pop culture; fighting fire with fire may be the
only solution. Regardless of whether Pink is a good role model or not, her
latest song Stupid Girls is refreshing, it is a great start at reexamining the
restrictive image of what a young female should be. Right now Œstupid¹ is
boring, in the words of Pink ³Outcasts and girls with ambition that¹s what I
wanna see!²

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