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The following is another email of mine for that hunk in my life quite interesting to read, and also, to contemplate, of course.

Good day my Lelaki Terindah,

How are you today? Enjoying your new role as a daddy? J

Yesterday I had a short discussion with Julie, one good friend of mine, about men’s role and women’s role in a marriage. There are many articles and books too talking about women’s role in a marriage, e.g. to be a wife, serving the husband, to be a mother, taking care of children, to be a homemaker, taking care of the house, cooking, etc. However, not many articles or books talk about men’s role in a marriage but as a breadwinner. Recently, when women want to be economically independent, then society increase their burden, that we know as “peran ganda” in our country. Why is there no “peran ganda” for men?

You know, honey, I really love to read your email telling me that you love changing your baby’s diapers. J For me, it is a great thing, coz as far as I know, not many men are willing to help their wives taking care of their babies. They simply think that taking care of babies is women’s responsibility only, not men’s.

Once I read an article (a mysoginist one, I believe) saying that a career woman will not make a good mother. So, a career man will not make a good father, eh? LOL.

I do hope, honey, though you told me that you are not a feminist, you will not be that kind of men that thinks, “these are women’s duties so I don’t need to do that.” when it is related to household chores or taking care of babies. Though, yeah … if in fact you are not really like what I expect, it doesn’t change my feeling to you. J I don’t know you very well, but, like Stefanie Hid said in her novel entitled Bukan Saya, tapi Mereka yang Gila, “love is irrational.” She is absolutely right. Love can come to anybody, at anytime, anywhere. Right? J It mostly irrationally happens. J 

Lots of love,

Nana

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